Releasing Control—How Trusting God Protects Your Heart
Control is something many of us learn as a form of survival.
Especially if you grew up in a home where unpredictability meant danger.
In my childhood, control wasn’t an option –it was a necessity. I learned to anticipate everyone’s emotions and behaviors just to stay safe. What I didn’t realize was that this survival skill followed me into adulthood.
God had to teach me this truth:
Releasing control is not how you get hurt.
Releasing control is how you finally heal.
Why Control Feels So Necessary
If you’ve lived through emotional harm, chaos, or abandonment, control becomes your armor.
You may relate to this if you…
Keep your emotions close
Feel anxious when plans change
Struggle to trust people
Expect the worst
Feel unsafe when you’re not “managing” everything
You’re not alone. These are trauma responses, not character flaws.
What Trusting God REALLY Means
Trusting God does not mean:
Ignoring your discernment
Pretending you’re fine
Letting unsafe people close
Minimizing your past
Instead, trusting God does mean:
Resting in His protection
Allowing Him to carry what you’re not meant to
Letting peace replace hypervigilance
Believing that your story is safe with Him
How to Begin Releasing Control
1. Name the root fear
Is it fear of rejection?
Fear of being left?
Fear of emotional pain coming back?
God can’t heal what we won’t admit.
2. Surrender one thing at a time
Not your whole life overnight.
Just one thing today.
3. Create space for quiet connection with God
Control thrives in anxiety.
Surrender thrives in stillness.
“Be still, and know that I am God.” — Psalm 46:10
4. Allow God to retrain your nervous system
God is not chaotic.
His love is steady.
His peace rewires your inner world.
The Freedom on the Other Side
Every time you release control, you’re telling your nervous system:
“I am safe in God’s love.” And that changes everything.
Keep Growing in Trust
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